Welcome! My name is Doni and you have now found yourself in my little part of the blog world. This blog serves multiple purposes. I am first and foremost, proud mama to Tanner, Ty, Tori and Troy. They are priority number one and many of my blog posts are devoted to them – “Mama’s Diaries”. In addition to keeping my plate full with being a SAHM and homeschooling, I am also a photographer. I decided not to separate my personal and business blog so mixed into my personal blog posts are also client sneak peeks for Live Loved Photography. Please visit www.livelovedphotography.com if you would like to see my portfolio. Thanks for visiting!
You know I was in heaven getting to spend the early morning with Cash. Looking at Cash, brought me back to years gone by with my own little Ginger boy. My heart melts into a big ole’ puddle. Doing a baby shoot in PHOENIX, in JULY, is tough due to the heat factor. Sunrise tends to be easier but even then we were sweatin’ buckets. Monsoon season made it muggier than normal. What a great way to spend a brand new morning though with this sweet family of 3.
He has the most beautiful peaches n’ cream coloring.
Love the feet crossing.
You can just SEE what a great personality he has.
We have had a lovely fourth of July week. We went to lake Bartlett and swam and fished with the kids, went to Lake Pleasant and got caught in a wicked monsoon on July 3rd and then a BBQ at Aunt Beck’s on Friday night. GOOD TIMES. On Friday night, Jim and I were in the pool with the littles and Tori was practicing swimming. She is slowly but surely gaining confidence. At one point, she came up from underwater gasping and choking having aspirated some pool water.
“I just swallowed water into my lungs but I am fine!” she says.
We giggled at her practical, no-nonsense, typical Tori behavior.
As the evening progressed, Jim and I both noticed she was struggling to get remnants of the water out of her lungs. She was quickly developing a strange and persistent cough – almost had a croupish sound to it. She also claimed her tummy was hurting from all the water she claimed to have swallowed. During the night the cough worsened. Jim and I discussed it and both of us wondered if she was going to be at risk for aspiration induced pneumonia. We are no strangers to that one because Ty and Troy both had such aspiration issues that this was always a concern (in fact, Troy was almost put on a G tube as a baby because his aspiration issues with bottle feeding were so bad and he did develop pneumonia). Tori was hospitalized as a baby for pneumonia (with RSV) so I knew what it looked like on her and wasn’t in a hurry to see that again. I told Jim that it could escalate to pneumonia quickly and a high fever would be the give away. Yesterday (Saturday) she seemed fairly okay but when she went to bed the coughing was even worse than the night before. I got up and checked for signs of fever a couple of times but she was good. At 3:45 AM she got up and tried to drink some water and then ended up vomiting it up. She was burning up at that point and because I had been checking, I knew it had come on FAST. I knew she had pneumonia.
I put her in the car and took her to the ER and Phoenix Children’s. When we arrived her fever was at 104.4 with a very fast heart rate (obviously). The good news was, she was satting well (98ish). The scan revealed “atypical pneumonia” and I was questioned about her preemie lungs because the Dr. said her lungs looked foggy. She did not have respiratory distress as an infant so I found that curious. The Dr. said that her pneumonia didn’t present the way submersion pneumonia normally does (the high fever and something about the right lobe of the lung didn’t look like she would expect). Jim and I both feel confident though that this WAS aspiration induced. We saw it happen, saw her immediate and persistent response to what happened and then just waited for the fever to hit so no surprise to us. With all the times that Troy and Ty have aspirated, I have been surprised that they weren’t plagued by more bouts of pneumonia. Both boys seemed to always clear it though and didn’t have persistent coughing after the trigger event. I would never have suspected a problem from what happened in the pool had she not been observably struggling to clear it for so long.
For arguments sake, cough and fevers are going around and Tori and Troy both have been recovered for about 2 weeks from a really strange mystery virus. They were both sick for 5+ weeks with a strange diarrhea and random vomiting virus. I was suspecting bacterial issue but stool samples didn’t show it (though they often don’t). Troy got so sick that his breath was smelling like ammonia and had a waking blood sugar level of 134 (they say over 125 is diabetic) BUT Jim had given him a little bit of apple juice before we tested and that would have skewed it. I think he was in ketosis from losing so much of his daily nutrients. All this to say, I do know Tori’s immune system has been compromised so maybe it was the perfect storm. Also had to wonder how much dirt she inhaled on Thursday night when we were caught at the lake in the Haboob. Who ever knows with these things? As I said though, all things considered, Occam’s Razor applies – the simple answer is typically correct and I am confident that the persistent coughing is directly related to the aspiration incident.
She just told me a little bit a go that her chest is starting to hurt. That concerns me a bit but her breathing is still okay. I have her on motrin and tylenol and the Dr. prescribed azythromiacin and we started that at about 11:00 AM so hopefully we will get her turned around really quickly before this can escalate into a respiratory distress issue. She seems to be going downhill in terms of her energy and fever despite the motrin/tylenol this afternoon so I am hoping the antibiotics will kick in soon.
Someday I would love to see Phoenix Children’s Hospital out my rear view window for the VERY LAST TIME. (But also so glad that I live in close enough proximity that I can get my children to one of the finest children’s hospital in the whole wide world when the situation calls for it – just wish circumstances would QUIT calling).
I was delighted when K contacted me for a boy/girl twin shoot. So much fun! At a tiny 5 and 6 pounds, both of them combined are not much bigger than some of my single newborns (because – yes – I have had an 11 pounder and several 10 pound babies). They were SO easy to work with too. I typically expect twin shoots to last 5 hours but these two helped me get the job done in 4 hours. They loved being snuggled up together and slept peacefully that way so I tried not to separate them much (which meant sometimes cuddling two babies in my lap in one blanket – loved it.
And this is why I love a macro lens for newborns. Love those precious intertwined brother/sister fingers.
And 5 year old brother Jack, now has his arms full! :)
I am always on cloud nine when clients place 9 pound plus babies in my hands. You know how I love them. They are so beautifully filled out. Little Easton was as calm and sleepy as any newborn photographer could hope for and I really wanted to keep him all for myself. :) I even got caught got sneaking a kiss in. I really make an effort to NOT kiss clients babies but sometimes the compulsion is frankly, overwhelming. Look at this beautiful boy? Could YOU resist kissing the top of that sweet head?
I raided Sweetie’s toy room for the red bed. She has never asked for it back so…still mine. Possession is 90% right?
These two are going to have too much fun together.
Wow! I am not sure I have ever gone this long in between Mama’s Diaries posts. I hate to space them out too much too because then I get overwhelmed with the sheer number of things to blog on and I also forget stuff (not to mention this will be a doozy to actually read). I also have been terrible about portraits of my kids this year. Must fix (and now it is starting to get hot)!
Starting from the bottom today…
Things I am loving…
Troy copying his big brother and telling me “I happy”. (Ty is a GREAT influence on his siblings).
“Love you too!”
“I stuck” (says exactly like Tanner did at two)
“Help me!” (we hear this a lot)
“Toe-wee I need hug. I wove you Toe-wee”
“Bye T” (copying Braxtyn who likes to call Tori “T”)
…when he kisses my eyes, nose, cheeks, forehead, then lips (copying what mom does to him)
“Hey! Get back here Toe-wee!”
…when he calls me “Mommy Bro” or Jim “Daddy Bro” – (copying use of “bro” from brothers)
“I hurt. Give me hug.”
“det’s go my woom! det’s pway!” (He says this ALL the time).
“I doe wan new.” (I don’t want to)
“Otay” – okay (Reminds me of Little Rascals)
“sing me” – sing to me
I adore the way he talks with such pitch variation. The end of nearly every sentence goes up several pitches.
Things I don’t love…
“I want dat! Dat’s mine!”
“Poop and pig” (This is what he calls Winnie the the Pooh and Piglet)
He is still a major climber. He has fallen head first over the back of the couch several times and regularly climbs to the top of the dresser to get his pacy down. He even climbed to the top of our entertainment center one day trying to get a game.
I caught him using a Christmas ornament hanger to try to pick the lock on Tori’s door. Nice. (Our Christmas decorations were put away before March 1st .
Things Troy loves…
He loves to play farm with Tanner. Unlike the way Tanner and I used to play farm, with an actual toy barn and plastic animals, Tanner and Troy build a minecraft farm. LOL. Troy loves it!
He has a thing for classic cartoons. He loves Mickey Mouse, Curious George, Winnie the Pooh, Peppa Pig, and Caillou. It’s funny to me how he gravitates toward so many simple, flat, cartoons. He also likes Paw Patrol, Bubble Guppies, Sherriff Callie and Octonauts.
He loves nap time and is a great sleeper. He will often tell me “Let’s go take a nap now!” I heard Tori tell him it was nap time last week and he replied with “Yay! I love naps!” I think that is at least in part because he has to wait until sleep time for his pacifier and he is still a big pacy fan. Jim and I are not ready to address that yet. I was just commenting that I have never had a child with a blankie or stuffed animal attachment BUT recently I realized that Troy DOES have a strong attachment to his John Deere Tractor Pillow. He has even been trying to lug the big thing with us when we go out the door. He loves to sit in his little brown recliner with his tractor pillow, 2 blankets, his wubbanub, and a sippie cup. As a fourth child, it will be a long time before he gets the remote though hee hee.
He loves to sing. I often hear him singing the Mickey Mouse Club theme song and “Hot dog”. He was even singing along with Adam Levine (Maroon 5) on the way to church Sunday. When I tuck him in at night he says “Sing me” and wants me to sing “I love you. You love me. We’re a happy family with a great big hug and a kiss from me to you, won’t you say you love me too.” (Otherwise known as the Barney Theme Song). In fact, this morning he wanted to be greeted this way as well. First thing he said when he woke up is “Sing me. Sing I love you.” I agree with my baby boy – that is a wonderful song to go to sleep to and wake up too – for both of us.
He loves grandparents! When we go to my mom’s, he starts yelling “Yay! I am home!!! I am home!!!” from the carseat the minute we pull into her driveway. He loves his Grandma to stay the day too and cries when she leaves.
Puzzles! He is good at puzzles and loves to play with them for the longest time. I bought him a wooden alphabet puzzle and he will do that puzzle over and over. He also is still loving his trains and blocks.
Recent Troy quotes of note…
Me: Troy? Where are you?
Troy: I in Ty’s room!
Me: Thank you!
Troy: Your welcome!
Me: Troy you are my salt and Tori is my Pepper.
Troy: No. I PEPPER!
We go round and round on this one.
Me: I love you sweet baby.
Troy: I love you sweet mom.
On a windy day outside…
Troy: My hair blow away!!!!
Me: Troy did you wake up Tori this morning?
Troy: No! Toe-wee wake up baby!
For the record, Troy wakes up Tori or Troy almost every morning so they will put on cartoons for him and keep him company. That is the awesome thing about the baby having older siblings. He wakes up them instead of me! Love that.
Me: Do you want chicky nuggies (what he calls chicken nuggets) for lunch Troy?
Me: Do you want a hot dog?
Me: A sandwich?
Me: Troy you have to eat something! What do you want?
Troy: I said NO!
Tori doing her math flashcards.
Troy: Yay! You did it! Good job Toewee!”
Many of the above wouldn’t be so funny for an almost 3 year old but his speech is so delayed that whatever he says makes us giggle. He has a large vocabulary but you still need proper context to understand him a lot. The other day he wanted watermelon and I would have never figured it out in a million years had the kids not told me that a character on his show just ate watermelon and then I could “hear” it. Sometimes he drops the first letters of the word, sometimes the end, and sometimes both. Sometimes we call him Scooby Doo because he says things like “Go rit ray!” (go this way). I am hoping that he will grow out of this without intervention. We’ll see. I CAN say, however, that his verbal communication is continually developing and that is a very good thing.
Jury is still out on a second eye surgery. He is down to patching 45 minutes a day and we are trying to get him to wear his glasses. He isn’t hiding them at this point but he does continually wear them around his neck and will push the lenses out (so aggravating to find missing lenses). My concern is that he is getting exotropic. His left eye tends to wander out now instead of in. The Dr. feels like he is coming along and is keeping it straight most of the time but I am bothered because even though it might look fairly straight, it doesn’t look focused. I am not feeling great about it right now but maybe he just needs more time. He has a slight astigmatism and he is a little far sighted but over all his vision is not that bad. In fact, the Dr said that under normal circumstanced he likely wouldn’t have put glasses on him yet. However, he thinks that the extra bit of help from the glasses may help him straighten his eye out so we are giving it a go again.
He is still VERY little. His cousin Quinn is a good head taller now (they are six weeks actual/3.5 months corrected apart). He has become a picky eater and that has been aggravating. Not nearly as bad as Ty but still difficult. His excema has been pretty bad. I am hoping that summer will help. He has spots on his arms that look like a burn victim sometimes. I treat the bad spots with triamcinolone (steroid) still but found that the new Neosporin Daily Excema cream is AWESOME for daily maintenance. In fact, his skin has never felt better when I am using that daily.
And one last Troy funny…
Recently I posted the following video on facebook of Troy’s head stuck in the gate. I am writing this down so that hopefully, I will not forget this tip again in my future as he is prone to getting himself stuck. No matter how it looks, the child likely entered the situation from the side the head is on! I always tend to try to back the head out of these jams. It LOOKS LIKE kid stuck his head through something so he just needs to pull it back out. It is very confusing when said head is way too big to back out because you ask yourself over and over how it got through in the first place. More often than not, it didn’t, it just looks like that. In this instance (as with the incident with the chair), Troy put his tiny little body through and then could not get his head through. To fix it, all he had to do was put his body back through. This took him a minute to figure out though and good thing because Tanner and I were meanwhile doing everything in our power to muscle the bars apart. I wonder how many fire fighters have cut through rails, banisters, and fences when the kiddo could have just stepped through to the other side. LOL. PUSH don’t pull. The second thing I would add on my blogspace is this…I sounded calm in the video because I WAS. Several people later asked me how I was so calm when Troy was stuck with his head between the fence rails. Simple. That did not constitute an emergency for me. He was breathing. He was awake. No blood. No injury. No big deal. I have had the paramedics at my house for true emergencies three time (2 for Ty and 1 for Tori) not to mention several paramedic transports from ER to hospital for various reasons. It’s all about perspective isn’t it?
She played her first season of soccer this spring and we found it pretty hysterical. Some days she would show up in uniform with a purse filled with lip gloss. Denim and diamonds. She was not particularly competitive. She clearly played for the social aspect. She scored quite a few goals but also asked to be sidelined quite often. Too much work? LOL. She told us that it was too much running and made her kidneys hurt. I suspect she will want to play in the fall again though because she loved being with her friends and she loved weekly soccer practice and just being on the field with her dad and brothers. She sure was fun to watch. I think these pictures will serve as pretty good evidence as to what I just said.
She finally had her VERY FIRST haircut on 3/18/14 at six years of age. Kristin took 4 inches off. We were worried about her hair being on the toilet seat. It’s now just to the top of her bottom. I love my girl’s hair. As I said this was her first parent endorsed haircut but she did cut her bangs herself with my craft wire cutters recently. I am still not finished lecturing about that. I am trying to give it a rest but I am not quite over that yet. It isn’t super noticeable but it never fails to escape my attention. Grrrr… What was she thinking? Will I ever be able to trust this child with scissors? I am starting to doubt it. Come on already!
Tori’s excema has been awful this week. She is looking like a burn victim too so I started Troy’s regime on her yesterday. Something outside must be getting to my kids. It has been a really bad allergy season for all of us.
Tori and I have been having fun reading Mary Poppins together lately. We watched Saving Mr. Banks and it inspired us. (What a sweet movie).
My helpful little girl surprised me and got Troy ready for church all by herself. Diaper change, clothes, shoes, and even hair! So nice having a girl. She has been helping me tuck Troy into bed lately too. Troy likes for her to sing “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star” and then I have to follow it up with aforementioned “I Love You” song. I need to get her singing to him on video because she sings so sweetly and gets really close to his face and often just strokes his head and cheeks like a mother hen while singing. I love it.
Noteable Tori Quotes
On trying on a pair of sweat pants…
Tori: Are these pants for sweating in?
When I was using a dye brush to touch up my greys…
Tori: Uh….I am going to need some of that. I am getting some whites.
Tori: I pray before bed and ask Jesus to help me to have good dreams. Then when I am done I pray it all over gain.
Tori: In case he forgets.
All. Single. Day. (This is what she says when she means “all day long”)
I had brain freeze not long ago and my little mama said, “Just bite your tongue. If it happens again, just let me know.” My little care giver who says she wants to be a Dr. I don’t recommend biting your tongue for brain freeze. I am quite confident that would exasperate the issue.
While shopping in Toys R Us for her birthday…
Tori: Whatever it is you are going to show me, I am going to be so not interested.
This was her SIXTH birthday, not SIXTEENTH.
Tori: I can’t stop hearing to it.
(When she can’t stop listening to a favorite song)
Tori: Will you plause it? (pause)
She still says “and den” instead of and then. I love it.
“Bare neck sesames the simple bare neck sesames….aaaahhhhhh! I can’t get that song out of my head!”
(Bare necessities – Jungle Book)
Tori and Ty love to watch the weather channel together and sometimes ask for popcorn while watching. Recently they both pointed out that the US has some weird cities like a Wash in DC and Sox Falls. The wash in DC really stood out to them because they know mama loves her washes for photography.
Me: How did you know I was going to say that?
Tori: Because I love you very much and I can read your mind.
(I had said exactly that to her the week before. She stored it away for future reference).
Ty: Can I call you “sis” Tori?
Tori: I am your sister so yes Ty you can.
Ty: Are you happy Tori?
Tori: Yes but if you ask me that one more time I am not going to be!”
Tanner: MOM!!!!!!! Tori just called Ty a D*!ck!
Me: What!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tori Savannah, did you just call your brother that??????
Tori: Ya! It’s short for Ridiculous!
ROFL! I am still laughing about that one. Our household has gotten a lot of mileage out of that word ever since (“ridiculous” – not the Tori shortened version hee hee).
This past week she asked me if she could make some Tang. I told her she could. A while later I saw her trying to head out the front door with a sign.
Me: Hey! Where are you going? You aren’t allowed out there!
Tori: I am going outside to sell my Tang.
I then notice that her brother Ty told her how to spell everything for her sign and she had about 12 cups of Tang made and ready on the kitchen counter. Nice. I poured all but one out and told her she could save one of them to drink. Needless to say, she was very upset that her grand corporate plans got squashed. Later I noticed she didn’t drink the Tang on the counter.
Me: You didn’t drink any of the Tang you made.
Tori: It tasted terrible!
LOL. Glad the neighbors didn’t have the opportunity to invest.
Recently I shared some private, personal information with Tori when she asked me a question.
Tori: Don’t worry. I won’t tell anyone that. It will just be our little secret.
All said in a sweet and affirming whisper. OH how I love her.
School is going along fine for Tori. She is a K-gartner and I plan a rather laid back Kindergarten year. Her reading progression has been slower than I hoped but we are making progress. She finished the How To Teach Your Child to READ in 100 Easy Lessons and is now working on the 160 word Dolce sight word list and is about half way finished memorizing that. She is still far from fluent though. Reading isn’t coming easy so far. Her favorite subject is having me read the Bible to her every day – she loves mom time. She also INSISTED on learning to type so I finally relented and let her start practicing and she is doing a lot better than I predicted for a six year old.
As I type, she is doing one of her favorite things, listening to Disney music videos.
I was giggling the other day when I heard Ty calling her Sophie. When we brought Tori home, Ty REALLY wanted her name to be Sophie and so he chose to call her that for quite some time. To this day, most of her accounts are created under the name Sophie (Ty probably is the one creating them). He sometimes calls her Sophie Soaps too. I noticed this was one of her game names. Not sure if that is because Ty was calling her that or if he started calling her that after that username was created but either way it makes me laugh. Her? Not so much.
She has been SO sick. Our household caught a nasty flu virus that really packed a punch. I was down for six days. Tori though has been throwing up for FORTY EIGHT HOURS. I finally called her pediatrician and he prescribed zofran for her. Gave that to her and she seems to be feeling a little better for now. Yucky.
Ty has a new tic that has been making us giggle. We affectionately term it the “smoker’s” tic. It looks like he is blowing smoke out of the side of his mouth. Good one. :)
School is going decently for Ty this year. He is in the fourth grade this year and seems to be pretty well on target. He is struggling with math more than anything. He is doing Grade 5 Teaching Textbooks and I think I will have him repeat it next year since he is a year ahead anyhow. For the most part, he can do long subtraction, long addition, long multiplication, and long division but it hasn’t been an easy process. He gets the big picture but the details get him hung up sometimes. Since he can’t write, he uses a math pad program (imagine excel but tailored to math). This helps with lining things up but nothing is fool proof. Majority of his daily errors are simple, silly things (but add enough of those up and you will get a less than decent score). We are working on reducing fractions now and that is going to be a challenge. I am teaching him how to create (what I call) prime trees so that he can cross out his primes. That method worked well for Tanner and it helps them know for certain that they ARE fully reduced. His reading is great but I question his comprehension. It’s hard to say though because I think he doesn’t retain what he isn’t interested in and that is more of a lazy reading issue than a true comprehension issue. He has started reading more fictional books on his own at night (like Diary of a Wimpy Kid series) and that has pleased his mom greatly. ONE other activity he is finding pleasure in. He and Tori are using our spa as a pool (we don’t heat during the warm months) so that is something else that occupies his afternoon times lately. I always love it when he finds non electronic things to do (and that is TOUGH for this kid). I signed him up for an “angelfish” class through parks and recs. These swimming lessons are for kids with disabilities. Hoping to make more progress with swim lessons for him this year. He has been involved with archery all year and this has been great for him. Not sure he loves it but he does loves the social interaction and he is with a great team of kids. He can nock his arrow really quickly now. I am so proud of his progress in that regard this year. I want to start using the IEW program with him next year because I think Ty will do well with writing. Spelling and grammar are not nearly the challenge for him that math is (in fact, I would say he excels in that regard).
I contacted the Southwest Autism Research Center recently to see what programs they offer and was pleased to find out that they offer job training for kids with Autism and Asperger’s. Obviously, we are a ways out from that but I am glad to know this program is available. They have a PEERS program that I am interested in this summer as it concentrates on social interaction (appropriate social interaction – I need to differentiate because Ty is plenty “social” hee hee).
I got a bit nervous last month because I feared another potential hospitalization but thankfully, problem resolved. Remember last year when Ty spent several days at Phoenix Children’s for those terrible migraines? He hasn’t complained of headaches too much lately so it hasn’t been a big concern. He rarely mentions Alice In Wonderland symptoms either.
A couple of weeks ago, after being out at soccer practice with his siblings, he complained of a headache. He mentioned it a couple of times. He also asked me to feel his head. I think he wanted to know if I could feel his pain. I was distracted and never did a single thing about his complaint. I later kicked myself for that. If any of the other kids complained, I am certain I would have treated them. They would have wined and cried and made sure they had my attention. Not Ty. He briefly mentions things and doesn’t draw a ton of attention. He is perseverant about everything so when he repeats a complaint I forget to pay extra attention to that. I should know better by now though.
Anyhow, at about 1:00 AM he woke me up and told me that is head hurt so bad he was going to throw up. Uh oh. I knew I had blown it at that point. I gave him motrin but he threw it right up. I gave him another small dose and he threw that up to. I was so worried I had missed my window and that the whole thing would escalate again but thankfully he must have absorbed enough of the medicine to calm it down. Once he slept it off, he was okay. The next day, Tori says “Mommy I know why Ty had such a headache! He was spinning in circles out on the soccer field with another kid!”
Ah ha!!!! Tori called it. Last year, I really though the trigger event for the migraine from the hot place was the platform swinging that his OT had put him on. The headache started immediately after that. Because we didn’t understand the severity of a migraine it would advance into, we didn’t treat it for two days and then he was TOO sick for motrin to be a recoverable option. It took 3 days of headache cocktails at PCH to stop that train. After Tori pointed the spinning incident out, I knew she was correct. Ty cannot spin!!!!! He is very motion sensitive. Jim is like this as well and the same thing happens to Jim. If Jim gets motion sick, it triggers a terrible migraine cycle that he can only get past by sleeping it off too. I really need to treat Ty the minute he tells me has an affliction but I am not a “medicate it” person and that is always my last resort so it just doesn’t occur to me. You’d think I would learn my lesson with Ty though.
Noteworthy Ty Quotes:
I purchased animal crackers for the kids.
Ty: Ahhhhhh…this brings me back….to when I was 7.
I heard Ty walking down the hallway with Tori one day saying “It’s okay. He is with us.” (They are scared of the dark). We love this song:
So raising a child with Asperger’s is quite a challenge sometimes. I look ahead to our future and giggle even imagining all the predicaments we will find ourselves in. Never a dull moment around here. Recently, Ty and I got into a discussion about kissing girls. When it is appropriate, when it isn’t, what is a long and short kiss (to which he pointed out that what happened between Daddy and I on New Year’s Eve was a LONG kiss LOL)…etc.
Ty: So when I am a teenager and I see a pretty girl I can kiss her?
Me: Uh…no. (I explain about relationships and mutual decisions.)
Ty: So when I am a teenager I just go up to a girl and say “do you want to be in a relationship” and then I kiss her?
Oh my. I asked if we could please hold off on this conversation for several years and in the meantime the only girl he could kiss is ME. Sheeesh.
Dusty and Kristina have pointed out that he ALWAYS has one sock on right and one inside out. I never think to notice unless D and K are around. They are right. Batting 100% so far. What is up with that? How could it be 50% wrong every single time?
Aunt Beck and Uncle Dave have determined Best Day of My Life by American Authors to be Ty’s theme song. Love it.
Sweetest thing. On Mother’s Day Eve Ty asks me if he can go email someone. I ask him who he is going to email and he looks all giddy and nervous and giggly. He finally says Sweetie. I say that is fine. Then he says “Mom I am actually not going to email Sweetie, I am going to email you but don’t look at it until tomorrow okay?” Then I realized what he was up to. Brought me to tears. Earlier in the day I had teased him and asked him if he had made my card for Mother’s Day yet and he gave me a sad look and said “I can’t write mom”. It was several hours later when it occurred to him that he could just send an email. It never fails to amaze me that it is my little Aspie who so often is the most tender towards my feelings. He seeks to understand and give love in such observable ways. I love my boy so much. (And, Tanner followed suit and send mom an email too – both detailing how I am the very best mom in the whole world – aaaahhhhhh – the happiest of days).
Tanner is bummed today because his very last soccer practice of the season was just canceled. Mr. Diligent is not happy that there will be no practice before the last game of the season. His team did really well this year. I am so proud of Tanner for how hard he will work for what he loves. Such a good quality. He has been watching a ton of soccer on tv too. Good thing dad works for Cox and gets all those soccer channels free! Jim is getting to be a soccer fan too. They follow Barcelona and Madrid probably the most but Tanner still likes Manchester United too. (I really have no idea what I am talking about – I just love to name drop hee hee). At the end of year soccer party, they held a cross bar challenge. That is where you have to kick the soccer ball precisely enough that it hits the top rail of the goal net. Determined to win this competition, Tanner was dragging his goal net down to the community park in the middle of the afternoon in 100 degree weather. He would come back so red from the heat, I would make him jump in the cold spa. I asked him to go in the evening when it was cooler but he refused because he didn’t want to run into the after school crowd. He said they would want to play soccer with him and keep him from practicing. Such a disciplined sports lover. He put hard work and a lot of heart into his efforts. Guess what? HE WON!!!!!! I was so moved by his performance. When it comes down to it, mama doesn’t care if he wins or loses. I just want him to have fun. BUT, he cared so very much and he worked so hard that I just felt such admiration for him and that win. He won a big 2 pound box of taffy.
I was SUPER proud of his progress with IEW this year. We’ll be continuing the program together next year. He is typing about 50 words per minute now (which was my year end goal) and he is loving Pre-Algebra. Last year, he wasn’t such a fan of math but this year, he is really enjoying it. I haven’t helped him at all so I am way behind on algebra. No worries. I will catch up when it is Ty’s turn. I can pretty much guarantee he will NOT like pre-algebra.
Tanner started babysitting a bit for me last year. I needed him to watch Troy and Tori when I took Ty to archery. It went wonderfully well (in part because Tori is the true sitter and Tanner is the figurehead). She calls me like every 15 minutes too so I feel quite in the loop. :)
Recently, I had to take Ty to an appointment so Tanner was responsible for putting Troy down for a nap for the first time. Troy, talked his brother and sister into tucking him in, reading him FIVE stories, Tori had to sing to him, and then they both had to say “snug as a bug in a rug” (the daily mantra that both Troy and Tori require. I mean REQUIRE). Pretty adorable.
Tanner has been reading more fiction this year too. He has really enjoyed the Hunger Game Series and also Gregor the Overlander series. He has read Rush Limbaughs historical fiction and really liked that and now is reading all the Rick Riordin books (Percy Jackson and also The Olympian series). I tell him I pay his allowance in book money. :)
Tanner and I have been reading the book of Acts together this month and it has been such a neat experience to get to talk through stuff with him each day. My favorite story in the bible is the story of Stephen. Can you even imagine taking such a stand, against all opposition, WHILE BEING STONED, and to be allowed a glimpse into heaven at that very moment and see JESUS stand up at the right hand of God. The most incredible moment of validation and affirmation…ever. And who was meanwhile holding the coats of those doing the stoning? None other than the author of nearly half the NT, Paul. Such an absolutely, incredibly story. Having the opportunity to share the details of this history with my firstborn child was precious to me. I love the gift of those teaching moments with my children.
We are introducing spanish to the curriculum next year so Tanner and I were playing around with different programs deciding on our curriculum (I chose Rosetta Stone). We got to playing with www.duolingo.com and turns out, Tanner loves it. Who would have thought?
Nothing huge to report on. I have been feeling super organized lately thanks to my friend Tom Simpson who introduced me to the Total Workday Control book. Organization is a hobby of mine. I like to organize much better than to actually “do”. LOL. This system has worked out awesome for me though!
1. I have an empty inbox every single day. Woot! Woot!
2. I have a comprehensive task list that does not overwhelm me or tell me I am overdue as it works off “start dates” and not “completed dates”. It also allows me to schedule reoccuring tasks and future events. I have never felt more organized. LOVE IT!
As I said, the last few months, portraits of my kids have been sorely neglected. When watching The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, a line jumped out at me. “When I am in a moment that I love, personally, I don’t want the distraction of my camera, I just want to stay in it.” Yes…that is exactly how I feel and why I have put my camera down a lot lately. I do need to get some more pictures taken of the kids though because I am going to be kicking myself come the end of the year if I don’t get on the ball.
My children remind me daily what a good life I have. One of my siblings commented this week on the super happy disposition of Tori and Troy and I told him that I think they have learned it from Ty. He really sets the mood for all of us. We celebrate the simplicity of our life together and he affirms it for us all day long. We believe him. Life is great. We are happy. We love one another. ALL GOOD.
Still sporting a manly beard, still working as a software engineer at Cox, still performing excellently as head of my IT department, still making my heart pitter patter. :) What else can I say?
And a funny to leave you with….
When Quinn came to visit…
Quinn: Aunt Sissy. I am not going to hit Troy tonight. Not right now.